The Narcissist May Make Women Bitter
Narcissists leave hardened, cold, bitter women in their wake
WOMEN BECOME BITTER
By Tigress Luv, The Breakup Guru
can have their
soft, gentle, feminine innocence knocked right out of them. From Bad
Abusers, to Cheaters, to Users, to Narcissists, the list of creeps out
ready to disarm us is endless.
HOW IT BEGINS
As in nature, we may be attracted to that which is opposite of us as a way to ‘complete us' and make us feel whole. Our weak, complacent side may often (and naturally) seek out a mate that is strong, unyielding and hardened … but much to our dismay we soon find that many unyielding, hardened men come with much baggage…and this baggage is usually discharged at the weaker sex -- us. We become safe targets, punching bags, and gullible, trusting guinea pigs who absorb the man's pain and insecurities and who never fight back. We unwittingly let men devour us out of our faith, trust and love of them.
Nevertheless, eventually, we do wise up. We learn that some men can hurt us -- deeply. And we become tough, strong, unyielding, and hardened.
HOW IT ESCALATES
After being hurt, let down, and disappointed time-after-time (in our relationships), we learn to stop being feminine, weak and trusting.
After being taken advantage of time-after-time, we stop being open, soft and vulnerable. Our hearts bolt shut and we become overly cautious and distrustful.
After being seduced time-after-time by the feigned charm of philanderers, we stop flirting and we become cynical, hard and impenetrable.
A hardened, unbreakable shell gradually replaces our soft femininity; and we soon possess a callous and sometimes contemptuous attitude, an unattached and distanced approach, and a suspicious, untrusting nature.
THE REAL TRUTH IS AT HEART
Unfortunately, deep down inside -- under this new, rough, hardened exterior -- lies the true, soft, feminine, beating heart of a damsel still dreaming of her knight. A heart that is all too flexible -- a heart that is permeable, thin, and easily broken, still looking for that man that will sweep her off her feet, protect her from all the dragons, and lock her safely away in his arms forever after.
If the man in your life, or the men in your past, have made you close your heart, and hide your true feminine emotions, remember that you are only denying yourself the right to be a woman in all of a woman's true glory. We may hide from pain, we may close our hearts in fear of them being bulldozed, but in the end we only hurt ourselves.
So go ahead and be that gracious beautiful soft gentle woman that you are. Today you should rejoice in your femininity. A woman's loving heart and tender, impassioned soul is the most beautiful and natural thing on this planet. Without it, this world would be a very ugly place to live in.
And -- somewhere out there -- waits a man that would love to slay your dragons!
For more information on surviving a narcissist read my digital reports about my own, ten-year experience of living with a narcissist here, at my narcissist advice website, Breaking Up With Your Narcisist
Breaking up with a histrionic narcissist? Be prepared for the battle of your life! While you are an emotional basketcase, he is as Cold as Ice! While you are left holding down the fort and dealing with the real-life responsibilities, he walks away from everything leaving you to mop off his stage and pay his bills. He will punish you in ways you couldn't possibly have ever imagined...
....and not even acknowledge it to himself! Why? Because he's off charming the socks off of new women as if your years together didn't even exist!
The narcissistic ex continually acts in abusive, bewildering and confusing ways. He is not above committing destructive acts. When the breakup becomes a reality, it is likely that his 'false persona' will completely disappear all together and you will most likely experience the most hurtful of behavior from him. He is completely lacking in empathy, and - since he is not receiving any admiration from you anymore - he will dismiss you and discard you as worthless to him, consequently dropping any fake front that he once fabricated in order to keep you in the relationship. Click here to read our 'Breaking Up & Dealing With a Narcissist' downloadable pdf ebooks brought to you by Tigress Luv.